Here is the recipe for healing generational hurt. A person that heals their inner wounds heals their parents, their children and all people around them.
-Learn all you can about trauma and trauma bonds
-Understand common emotions that accompany trauma
-Examine problematic thought patterns, and
-Deepen your mind-body connection by incorporating wellness habits into a routine in your everyday life.
(Gentle nurturing, restoring Reiki also would help release blocked pathways, trapped trauma energy and soothe like a warm hug on a cold day!)
Intense feelings are an indication we are triggered. Meaning subconsciously the amygdala in the brain recalls a stored snapshot in time when things were unpleasant tagged "to be avoided" and is sounding warning bells. If we can stop here to ask - how old is this part of me that feels small? What emotion are we feeling? When was the first time we felt that emotion?
Most often you will be able to pinpoint the root reason for the sudden change in feelings and begin to reframe the event. This is a basic version of a technique called affect bridging and I use it often in my hypnosis practice. The little space for reflection gives time for you not to react in 4F ways (fight, flight, freeze, fawn) and reminds your grown self that you NOW are no longer vulnerable or helpless. Once the event is released (by talking, reframing, Reiki/other holistic energy practices), the amygdala (in the brain) clears the "to be avoided" tags and releases the memory via the hippocampus to the neocortex for rational processing. Done repeatedly, this process will calm your more reactive nervous system; de-charging the intensity of flashback(s). Living in a frequently triggered state is painful and unnecessary. Healing is worth it. Don't be afraid to look within or get in touch with a skilled practitioner who can take you safely through the process.
Much ♥️ as you take your first steps, are somewhere in-between or are seeing the light at the end of your tunnel. Just keep walking. There is nothing else to do!
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The author is an Anxiety & Toxic Manipulation Recovery Coach, Certified Hypnotist, Reiki Master, and Self Healing Expert. She got fed up of being pushed around and bullied and started to educated herself to swim confidently with sharks. An expert on the topic, she now negotiates uncharted territory confidently and is thrilled to share her knowledge with others.